Why Everybody Must Die.

The hard part about growing up is that eventually, you have to kill Everybody. 

Before Everybody kills you. 

Don’t get me wrong, I love Everybody (even when I don’t like them much).  But things just aren’t working out between me and Everybody anymore.  It’s not Everybody’s fault. Because Everybody does exactly what They are supposed to do.  Everybody is perfect at being Everybody. 

And so are They.

Hence…..

Yup. They have to go too.

Too bad. So sad.  

But… worrying about what Everybody and They think can send a girl into a tailspin.

I hate when That happens.

Speaking of That…

Sometimes That gives me a lot of Sh!t.  

And so…

New Rule:

I’m not taking That Shit anymore!

And I want Everyone to respect my choices.

But, since Everyone does what Everybody says….

 Sorry Everyone.  I had to do it.  You refused to find a way to respect my decisions.

I tried to tell Them. I really did. But it was impossible for Them to understand. What mattered to Them was that I do it just like Them, see it just like Them, think just like Them, act just like Them.  

Can you guess what happens next?

I really really hate to see Them go.  I love Them too, as much as I love Everybody.  

Darn Them!  

So…

…what happens when you kill Everybody and Everyone and They, Them, and That (including That’s Shit)?

Well, at first, it feels like this:

Yeah, it kinda sucks like that. This ‘taking your power back’ stuff isn’t always easy.  But it’s what you need to do if you want to live life on your terms.

And then, slowly, you notice this new feeling.

The tightness is your chest begins to ease. You feel lighter.  Your other relationships improve.  The ones that really matter to you.

You might even start to feel…

Happy.  Free.  In charge of your own life. 

And then… here’s the really fun part….

You find a new Everybody.

And a new Everyone.

And a new Them, They, and That.  And the really cool part is, because you took your power back by slaying ‘you know’, the new people and things in your life will be just right for you.  

They will lift you up. Higher. And higher.

Oops, I almost forgot one.

You are going to love The New You. In fact, she’s why you got all those other icky people out of your life in the first place. You took your power back.

It starts with You.

And Me, of course.

It all about Me.

Your turn. 

Who’s your Everybody?

Is it time to take back your power? 

Today’s class is about sh!t. Sorry.

Have you ever tried to help someone who didn’t want your help?

I mean, they make it seem like they want your help, but they really don’t.

They want your ears. 

I have made this mistake over and over and over and ov…… 

Why? 

Because I think I’m being asked for advice. 

And I give it with reckless abandon. 

The thing about advice is, we tell ourselves we’re giving it because we want to help the other person, but that’s just one big fatass lie.  We are serving ourselves when we give someone else advice. We want to make things better for them so that we don’t have to feel their pain.  Our pain. Any pain. We want everything and everybody to be fine. Fine. FINE!

Why? 

WHY?

WHY?

Because we have a hard time compartmentalizing shit. 

There’s your shit.

There’s what you think about your shit.

There’s other people’s shit. 

Then there are all the thoughts you have about other people’s shit.

Oh, and don’t forget, there’s God’s shit.  He has a right to his own shit, too.  Stop messin’ with God’s shit.  He’s pretty much got his together. 

Sorry my peeps, but it had to be done. 

I gotsta make my point!

How am I doin’?

If you’re still with me, yayyyy!  

For that I am now going to give you some candy advice… (I’ve already given you tons of candy!)

Leave now if you don’t want my advice, otherwise, here goes…

Whenever someone comes to you with their “problems,” try to resist the urge to jump in with your advice on how to solve everything for them.  Instead, notice what happens to you when you start to listen. 

Do you get all wiggly and swirly inside?

AHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

See what I mean? 

That wiggly swirly stuff is all about YOU, my friend! It’s all about how you are thinking about what the other person is telling you.  Are you judging? Are you fearful? Do you think they’re crazy?  Do you feel like poking their eyes out?

And what kind of advice are you going to give them when you’re being judgmental, or fearful, or both? 

I’m guessing it’s going to be pretty shitty advice.

Let’s just keep layin’ that shit on. 

On the other hand, if you can listen with an open mind and heart, without judgment, without fear, you might actually be able to help them, just by listening. That’s it.  That’s all.

Why?

Because some people just want you to lend them an ear so they can talk about their shit. The end.  And you have the option of listening, or not.  If you’re going to listen, then clean up your own thinking first.  Go to that place in your head where birds sing and there’s candy everywhere! 

If you can’t do that, then, for your own sake, you need to walk away and repeat the phrase:

“It’s not my shit.”

“It’s not my shit.”

“It’s not my shit.”

Now, take my advice, dammit!